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Wouldn’t it be great if our kids always got along?  Perhaps the better question would be:  wouldn’t it be great if our kids understood how to resolve their conflicts more effectively and appropriately?   It is normal for people to disagree, adults and children.  However, the problem is that most people have not been taught how to handle differences of opinions in an assertive and positive way.  In this video I share some powerful parenting skills that will help parents teach their children better ways to deal with conflict, both now and as they get older.  The bonus:  parents can use these same techniques in their own lives, both personally and professionally.

 

 Kids Always Fighting: Play Now

There are certainly times in our lives where we could use a little advice.  In fact, mentoring and coaching have become key words in businesses today who realize the importance of sharing information and ideas with our peers and colleagues.  But getting advice can also be a bit puzzling and frustrating.  Whose advice do we accept?  How do we know if it is good advice or not?  How do we respond if we don’t think the advice will work for us? Listen in as I answer these questions and more.

 

 Following Advice: Play Now

As a therapist and professional speaker, I certainly encourage people to consider carefully, even analyze, the choices they make in life. At the same time I never want their own intinctive, “gut feelings” to be swept aside or considered unimportant. On the contrary, it is often these very feelings that often  lead us to the best answers of all. In other words, people often know exactly what to do—in fact, there’s a voice inside yelling the answers—but no one is listening. Why? Because often what our “gut” is telling us aren’t the easiest answers. It may be the answer that is right. It may be the answer that is needed. But they definitely require more work.

Most of therapy (and speaking) is guiding people to recognize and then act upon what they already know they should do, but for some reason have chosen another path.

In this tape, a mother is concerned about her 19 year old daughter’s behavior which involves drinking and acting inappropriately. She feels she has lost control and deosn’t know what to do (or does she?). Let’s watch as she begins to understand and then trust her own instincts about what she as a parent is comfortable with and the steps she needs to make to help her daughter make better decisions.

 

 Flash Video: Play Now